Everybody that knows me well knows i’m a huge fan of TEDTalks and lifehacks. I could spend a whole afternoon watching them and learning so many amazing things about life, health, nature, our minds and everything in between.

Recently I came across an amazing talk done by Amy Cuddy called “Your Body Language Shapes who you are.”

After watching the 20min talk I was amazing at what Amy had presented and figured that this ’2min lifehack’ was something I needed to try. So before my next job interview I tried it out. I sat in the waiting room in one of her suggested “power poses” and it worked! Come the interview I wasn’t nervous, I felt I gave good answers and everything seemed to go well!

So I needed to re-test the theory.

Which I did.

Multiple times!

And every time, that simple 2min lifehack voided me of most of my anxiety!

So if you want to change your life for the better with a 2min lifehack, take the time and watch the 20min video, it incorporates something I think everybody at some point has experienced.

TL;DR 2min standing in a ‘power pose’ before an important meeting, event, or anything will significantly change the chemical levels in your body and make you perform as you should. No more freezing up like a deer in headlights!

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“who cares what they say”, “don’t listen to them”

We know we should listen to the advice and not care what ‘that’ person is saying, but it’s hard sometimes! It’s like the people who say, “I don’t care what people think about me”, erroneous! Everyone cares, whether it’s a little or a lot, people care when they’re not liked, and anyone that tells you otherwise is lying and super self-conscious.

Well… What about the damn frog?

Okay. Here it goes the new “sticks and stones:”

One day a bunch of tiny frogs decided to have a race. The object was to climb to the top of this very tall tower!

A large group of frogs and forest spectators came out to watch the race. However, even before the race started you could hear the crowd saying to themselves, “how will they ever reach the top of this huge tower?” “this is an impossible task, they’ll never make it!”

 The race began and the eager frogs started their way up the tower and one-by-one the exhausted contestants started to drop out. 

 The crowd was shouting from below, “you haven’t got a chance!” and “you’ll never make it!”

 Finally all but one frog had given up. With triumph and exhaustion they reached the top. The astonished crowd rushed over to congratulate him and ask him just how to made it!

 It turned out, the winning frog was deaf. 

The people you hang around with and the labels you are given, known to you or not, directly influence your life. It’s called the Pygmalion Effect and whether you like it not, it’s true.

Okay, activity time! But don’t worry this one won’t prove that you have less time than you think you do to do something with your life, but it will prove that some of your ‘friends’ are dead weight pricks.

- Grab a sheet of paper, draw a grid 5×6.

- In the first column write these questions, one per column, starting on the second row: 1. How positive is this person about their own life? 2. How much success has this person experienced? 3. How much does this person believe in my ability to succeed? 4. How much does this person want me to succeed?

- Then across the top, per column, write your friend’s name.

- Grade each friend A-F on each question.

For those that generally graded A-B, aim to spend most your time with these people. The ones that graded C-D, limit your time or at least your discussions about succeeding. Lastly, the ones grading E-F? Run, fast, they’re probably an asshole.

The truth is, just like those annoying couples that start to dress and act the same after dating for a while, we tend to be influenced highly by the people we hang around. Seriously consider that when you’re looking to make plans tomorrow night! “Sticks and Stones”

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Growing up playing sports I always picked the number 16 for my jerseys. Since then I’ve associated great things with that number; Sweet Sixteen in NCAA basketball, my first email address ever was split_sixteen, also the name of my first band ever. Pick a number between 1-20? 16 bitch! 16 GB iPhone, 16GB SanDisk memory cards, the list goes on.

But recently I’ve been cheating on the number I’ve loved for years. For a newer, fresher, more exciting, challenging and attractive (aren’t those always the reasons?) number, 21.

WOW, I just LOVE the number 21!!! There I said it. It’s the most magical number on earth and I’m happy to have it in my life!

Now before you think I’m crazy, hear me out.

I’m not a gambler, and I didn’t just win big at the casino in Blackjack. I’m not American, so drinking age has nothing to do with it. In fact, it’s nothing like that.

But I will tell you that, if you want to change your life in ANYWAY and become a mfHero, you’ll start to love the number 21 as well.

Everyone has something in their life that they’d like to change. Whether it’s losing weight, moving out, getting a new job or starting a business, there are changes you’ll need to make and regular things you’ll need to do.

Like most New Year’s resolutions, these changes tend to fall through and get pushed aside.

This is because these changes and activities don’t become rituals. An athlete has a ritual, they know that everyday they will wake up, work out and then have to go to sleep by a certain time on game nights. For many of us, brushing our teeth is a ritual, which we now don’t even think twice about.

But before we can develop a ritual, we need to form a habit of doing these actions. Now, people think habits are hard, boring and long to form. That’s where my love for 21 comes in.

A habit takes only three weeks or 21 days to form. Can you force yourself to do something you don’t feel like doing for 21 days? Sure you can! And by day 6, 12, 16 it’ll only be getting easier and easier!

Some of you might still be confused on how to build these life changing habits and rituals. So let’s do an example:

Task: (Something I strongly believe in) writing small daily obtainable goals
Step 1: get a day timer
Step 2: write a daily goal for today
Step 3: do it
Step 4: Repeat for 21 days
Step 5: Congratulate yourself, you just formed a habit!

21 days, that’s it! 21 days can change your life! In order to make any significant changes in your life you need to form rituals and good habits. 21 days will make something you don’t want to do or regularly push aside into something that’s just second nature.

21. It’s a beautiful number.

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Did you make any resolutions? Maybe it’s to become a mfHero?!

Regardless of what it is, 95% (completely made up number, but it sounds right) of resolutions fall though. This is mainly because if you need the start of a new year to motivate you to change, you don’t want to change badly enough.

A fun experiment would be to go out for a run tomorrow around your neighborhood. Count the number of people out doing the same thing. Keep doing this for the next three weeks and see how quickly that number goes down. Then, after three weeks you’ll be the only one out there, still running. The good news is your just formed a habit by playing a game! Good job! Keep running, it’s good for you.

Take a look back at the year that just passed. How was it? Did you have a good year? Or did you have a year so bad, that just the thought of going through another like it is motivation enough to change?

If you’re like me, you’ve just gone through what is one of the worst years in recent memory.

Granted yes, I met some great people, made some new friends and had fun, but in the perspective of life, it was the worst.

I worked a part-time job, spent a lot of money (and in return didn’t save any), and didn’t move forward in any career or life goals or aspirations.

I did nothing. I stood still for an entire year.

I wasn’t thinking, I was acting stupid and I paid for it by losing an entire year, WASTING an entire year. If you think wasting 77% of your week is bad, just imagine wasting an entire year.

Then on New Year’s Eve night I develop The Windshield Theory.

I was loading a large tube of seamless paper (colored paper around 107” long), which is used as a backdrop for photos, into my car for the NYE photos this year. I was running late, like usual.

The box was an inch or half-inch too long for my car. It was already pressed up against my windshield and no matter which way I angled the box, it was always just shy of allowing the trunk to close.

I tried shutting the trunk; it just bounced back up.

I tried shutting the trunk with a little more force; it closed (a little)! You know when you don’t fully close the car door and the latch/ lock is connected the door isn’t fully shut and you have to open it again and shut it with more force? Well that’s what I had going on. So what did I do?

I opened the trunk.

Pulled it back.

Slammed it shut with a little more force than last time.

It shut fully! I let off a small under breath “yes!” with a victory fist motion and finished rushing around the get the rest of my stuff ready to go.

It wasn’t until I got in the car to leave for the party I realized I cracked and shattered the passenger side of my windshield. A massive spider web crack now covered the passenger side of my windshield. Great.

My immediate thought (and the thoughts of my friends) was, ‘great way to start a new year.’

On the entire drive over to the party I kept thinking about the whole situation (other than the obvious, ‘please don’t let this spider web crack give way on the highway and glass fly into my car and face’)

Had I just not been running late, or acted so stupid and think I could somehow make the box smaller (you know, fit a square into a circle hole) or just stopped to think about the situation for a minute. I might not of had to pay for a brand new windshield this morning.

But then I realized, this isn’t a ‘great way to start a new year’ this is a perfect way ‘to end one of the worst years of my life.’ It summed up a year of poor choices, not thinking, making stupid moves and paying for it.

That whole situation represented the year I just lived though and that’s where I came up with The Windshield Theory.

Next time I feel myself slipping, acting stupid, or not making good choices (eating that Big Mac), I’ll think about the windshield, and remember just how these actions require me to pay for them, some way or another, in the future. Whether it’s an awkward meeting with some weird guy who only takes cash or wasting a year of my life, you end up paying for it. Or to paraphrase Newton, each action has a reaction.

The whole concept may seem obvious to most people, but it took me smashing my windshield to click-in, hopefully after reading this I can save you from having to go that route!

Perception is reality. Instead of thinking this is a horrible way of starting a new year and being bummed out, I looked at it as a perfect way to end a terrible year (and even developed a life lesson out of it!)

I used to be a huge advocate of letting ‘Future Adrian’ deal with things. But ‘Future Adrian’ is getting pretty pissed and fed up that ‘Current Adrian’ is having all the fun and he’s paying for it. So with a little work both ‘future’ and ‘current’ Adrian can have fun.

Too Long Didn’t Read?
Perception is reality and everything you do now affects you and/or other people in the future. So stop procrastinating and saying you’ll do it later, or start Monday, because I’m pretty sure the ‘Future You’ is getting pretty pissed off too.

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You also may have heard of the phenomena ‘Yacht Envy’ which happens often in Monaco. This is when millionaires moor their luxury yachts and next to them pulls up another, bigger, more lavish yacht. Suddenly, there’s a need to compete and your old $5o million  yacht is no longer meeting your needs. (which is crazy)

Being an adult doesn’t just happen one day. There isn’t just some flip of a switch that makes you an adult. It doesn’t happen automatically when you graduate college or university, when you get your first ‘real’ job, when you move out or have a long-term relationship. It happens when you have enough LIFE experiences to give you a kick in the ass wake-up call when to grow up.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to have everything lined up in a straight line so we can properly live like an adult.

But there’s a fatal flaw with rushing into becoming an adult, and you’ll witness this with most people you meet everyday.

Most people are successfully unsuccessful. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

First, try this.

- Grab a blank sheet of paper to draw your dream life. No dream is unattainable. Do not consider anything except for your pure raw dreams.
- Now on that paper draw out your perfect, 10/10 life using the FLOURISH model.

F: Friends [the people who you want to socialize with]
L: Love [your romantic relationships]
O: Occupation [how you want to spend your dream working time]
U: Usual Environment [your home, its setting and the life-style it offers]
R: Relatives [your relationship with family members]
I: Income [your personal finances]
S: Spare Time [how you want to spend your dream 'spare' time]
H: Health [your physical wellbeing]

Now, in your dream life, how would you FLOURISH? How does that compare to your current life or the road that you’re on?

Why do people end up ‘successfully unsuccessful?’

Drawing upon Stephen Covey’s ‘jungle clearing’ story as an analogy: it doesn’t matter how successful you are at clearing trees and undergrowth in the jungle, if ultimately you’re in the wrong jungle.

So why do you people end up in the wrong jungle? 

Lets look at Maslow’s famous hierarchy of needs:

1. Basic needs – things we can’t survive without, such as water, food, shelter
2. Safety needs – protection from physical harm or having financial security to continue to support our basic needs
3. Social needs – satisfying our human requirements for companionship and involvement with others
4. Esteem needs – to be respected and valued or to be able to display signs of wealth and prestige
5. Self-actualization – the need to be everything that you are capable of being, and reaching your full potential in life.

A quick example of each step is as followed:

Joe just graduated college and is broke. He immediately heads back to his parents house to put a roof over his head and feed him (therefore satisfying his basic needs). Joe’s mother gives him a hard time about just loafing around the house and tells him to get up and get a damn job! Joe goes to the local temp agency for a quick fix job and they place him in a low-level job with a decent company. He now has income and is able to pay for his own food and pay off his debts (therefore satisfying some of his safety needs). Joe makes new friends at work, some of which introduce him to his new girlfriend (meeting his social needs). Joe gets promoted to a permanent job at the company. This comes with a pay raise and benefits. He then works his way up the corporate chain and ends up becoming ‘manager’ then ‘senior manager’. The new pay raise and job promotions has Joe driving around in a new BMW (this meets Joe’s esteem needs).

Joe then hits 40 and his world is rocked by the sudden death of his mother and his last phone call with her, cancelling on their dinner because he was asked to prepare a work presentation last-minute. Joe then realizes he actually spends very little time with his wife and kids. Joe realized that he goes to work everyday, doing a job that he doesn’t really like, and even worse, a job he didn’t even want in the first place.

THE POINT IS 

Many of us coast through life, successfully climbing the hierarchy of needs, reaching close, but never close enough to the top. Hence, becoming successfully unsuccessful.

Most of us want to get a good job, make lots of money, get a nice place, get married and have kids. The problem is you’ll never truly be happy if you don’t reach the fifth stage of the hierarchy of needs. Money isn’t always enough. Imagine you just bought an amazing new home in the Hollywood hills. As you pull up to it, you see a famous movie stars house just up the hill next yours with a big gate and amazing clay roof. With a pang of envy you think, ‘what would it be like to live there, in a house with that view?’.

If you don’t reach the fifth stage in the hierarchy of needs you’ll never be truly satisfied. This is called hedonic adaptation. When you become used to or adapt to living a lavish life, but you’re always looking for more. Just like climbing in your new car for the first time. It’s amazing, months later, you’ve become used to it, year or two later, you’re looking for a new one. You need to figure out what kind of burger you are  as a good start to figure out how you’re currently living your life and the road you’re on. I’m guilty of not prioritizing my time just like most of us, but it’s time to step back and take a look before you hit 40!

There is no reason to wake up at 40 like Joe and wonder where it all when wrong when you grow up. 

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Most of us have heard this (or a derivative of it) at some point in our lives. And for the most part it’s generally true. But you must be careful to not allow it to become an excuse for putting things off and “starting monday”.

‘Make the most of each day and live everyday like is your last!’ 

Another common phrase many of us have heard at some point. Seems like a great concept except most of us don’t do it. We become to preoccupied with other non-meaningful things in our lives and actually waste a lot of our time!

This isn’t a plea to get you to adopt some cheesy mantra, this is proof why you should get activated and START RIGHT NOW and start working towards becoming a mfHero!

Setting aside the common fact that life threatening diseases (especially cancer) are on the rise and the odds of developing one is better than ever. Or the fact that there are more people who are generally bat-shit crazy and shooting up mall food courts on a Saturday at dinner time.

Okay let’s TRY THIS NOW. Seriously, it’ll get you motivated. 

1. Grab a sheet of paper and draw a large rectangle. 

This rectangle represents your entire life.

2. Break the rectangle up into 8 squares.

Assume the boxes represent your life expectancy of 80 years. Each box represents 10 years.

3. Shade in the number of years you’ve already been alive.

4. Now shade in a third of the remainder.

This represents the sleeping you are yet to do.

5. Next, shade in 50% of the remainder

This is based on research from Office of National Statistics Time Use Survey (2005) that shows on average we spend:
- 5 years eating and drinking
- 8 years doing chores
- 10 years working and studying
- 2 years on personal care
- 5 years commuting and travelling
- 9 years watching TV
- 1 year in meetings

6. Finally, think of anything else in your daily life that takes up time that hasn’t already been accounted for.

Oh sh*t right!? 

Now that you can quantify the amount of time you actually have to do something with your life how do you feel? What have you learned about your time and priorities?

Normally it takes a major life event (accident, death of a loved one, job loss, etc) to force people to get motivated and into making active changes in their lives.

Let’s look at the story of Simon Weston highlighted in his book Moving On.

Simon was a 21-year-old solider aboard a British ship involved in the Falkland Wars. On June 8th, 1982 enemy forces bombed his ship. Simon was caught in the attack and suffered burns disfiguring him and requiring over 70 major operations.

In his book Simon wrote:
Getting injured wasn’t the worst thing that ever happened to me. In some ways it was even the best. Look at all the positive aspects of my life that have grown from my injuries. In the end, it’s not what happens to you that counts, but what you do about it. What matters is where you are going to take your life and how you are going to make things better.

Since his injuries Simon has become dedicated to helping others, achieved a number of feats such as skydiving and running the New York Marathon.

Lastly let’s look at Spencer West. 

At the age of 5 Spencer lost his legs. However, this didn’t stop him from accomplishing some tasks that people dream of from their office desks! 

We’ve all heard of stories like these.

The confusing part is why do we WAIT for something like this to happen to us to get motivated?

Why wait for a wake up call to change our lives? 

Unless you have a trust fund waiting for you then you’ll never know what is going to happen to you in life. Many of us think of the above stories as awful things that would never happen to us. But the truth is it could.

So why not actively change our lives without having to survive a major life trauma? Make this the day you seize the day. 

If you still don’t get it.

A good friend once asked me, “if a bank gave you $86,400 a day for the rest of your life, but every dollar you don’t spend that day you would have to give back to the bank, and start with fresh $86,400 the next day. Would you try and spend every dollar?”

I answered, “of course, i’d try and spend every dollar, every day!”

He then told me “that the $86,400 now represents every second of every day. Once the day is done you don’t get that time back. Are you spending every dollar, living every second?”

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If not, it’s this little University somewhere in Massachusetts, besides the point. They offered a course, which in 2006 became Harvard’s most popular course about life, called PSY 1504 Positive Psychology taught by Tal Ben-Shahar.

The outline for the course read: “The course focuses on the psychological aspects of a fulfilling and flourishing life. Topics include happiness, self-esteem, empathy, friendship, love, achievement, creativity, music, spirituality, and humor.”

What the sh*t doesn’t that sound awesome! No wonder it was the most popular course!

Here’s Dr. Ben-Shahar’s philosophy in a nutshell: “When you learn how to live for today and for tomorrow at the same time, you learn how to balance your immediate personal needs with long-term goals and enjoy life as you never have before.”

What the hell this has to do with burgers!

Dr. Ben-Shahar argues that there are four basic archetypes of happiness decision-making, and this can be broken down by using burgers and adopting the model by Alison & David Price in their book Psychology of Success.

The first is The ‘outside a nightclub’ burger
This burger is the one you get right after a wild night of partying and stepping out of a nightclub, you smell the sweet smell of juicy burgers. You bite in, immediately sober up, and realized:
The burger is actually awful (CURRENT) and it’s really unhealthy for you (FUTURE)

Next is, The ‘health farm’ burger
This burger is the one that you find at a health farm. Scouring the menu, there’s nothing appetizing for you until you see a burger listed. You order it. When you finally get your anticipated burger, you bite in and realize it resembles a forest, with mashed beans and greens.
The burger tastes awful (CURRENT) but at least it’s healthy for you (FUTURE)

Next, The ‘fast food’ burger
No need to explain which burger this is!
The burger tastes yummy (CURRENT) but it’s really unhealthy for you (FUTURE)

Lastly is, The ‘homemade’ burger
When hanging out with all your friends and having a barbecue you choose to make homemade burgers. With lean beef, no preservatives, whole grain bun, and fresh crisp salad.
The burger tastes yummy (CURRENT) and is good for you (FUTURE)

‘Great, but I still don’t get what this has to do with life, happiness and me’

Well, imagine this is the way people lived their lives.

‘Outside a nightclub’ burger: people who are miserable now and aren’t working towards anything positive in the future.

‘Health farm’ burger: people who are miserable now, but it will be worth it because they are working towards success in the future. This is the one that is engrained into us since we are kids, and is ultimately the wrong way to live. 

‘Fast food’ burger: people who live for the moment and don’t mind that they aren’t building a foundation for the future.

‘Homemade’ burger: people who both enjoy their lives now, through what they are doing, are building an exciting future.

Now think about it, which burger are you? 

Because with the little time there actually is, there’s no reason to be a night club burger any longer!

Dr. Ben-Shahar states that success is not a moment in time when you ‘arrive and are happy’. It’s about enjoying the journey towards a future you deem to be valuable. While ultimately reaching the fifth stage in the Hierarchy of Needs.

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We can’t make active changes in our lives if we don’t accurately know where our time goes. So this was a logical first step towards becoming a mfHero. A lot of people ‘think’ they know where they spend all their time, but it’s not until you break it down visually do you really get a full understanding.

So after reading an amazing article by Therese Schwenkler posted on her blog The Unlost it got me thinking and I decided to track my own time for a week to see where it all goes! The whole process was adopted by this post on Therese’s site! Please check out her blog, you won’t regret it!

In the morning, I woke up excited, grabbed my notebook and started what would be an eye-opening experiment!

Now i’m sure there are more efficient ways to track your time (Maybe an app? If you’re an app builder let me know) but I went with the trusted method of a small notebook and pen.

For one week, everything I did I marked down in my notebook, my friends and family thought I was crazy.

Sunday night came and I sat down and complied all the data. This is when things started taking a turn for the worse.

I started by compiling all my basic data, activities and meaningfulness of those activities.

Did I really spend over 12 hrs of my week on YouTube?! Even worse I spent over 4% of my week socializing with people i’m impartial to socializing with!?

I know 4% doesn’t sound like a lot, but to put it in perspective, that works out to NINE 40hr work weeks in a year! This is where I started feeling really sick and worried about the next part.

Because next I labelled each activity as either important, unimportant, or necessary.

You’ll noticed I labelled work as unimportant, this is because I throughly dislike my job and yes you need to work in order to make money and live, however, you’re not obligated to work a job you dislike. If you do, you need to cook a different burger! Additionally, it’s a social necessity to not be a slob and have good hygiene, hence why ‘getting ready’ is a necessity. 

After labelling each activity I noticed a further sickening trend, the majority of the things I do in a week is ‘unimportant’ to me.

I knew what I had to do next. Break down how much of my week was spent on important and unimportant activities.

This is the point where I had to run to the washroom and dry heave.

I WASTE 77.19% or 81.72 hrs a week on unimportant things!

I had to make a change and luckily I could see exactly where. 

The point of the exercise isn’t to make you throw up on your computer. It’s to help you breakdown where you spend your time and if you want to become great you need to know where to trim the fat. On unimportant things you can live without, like ‘non-meaningful socialization’!

 Why this (almost certainly) applies to you!

You are going to spend more time at work than hanging out with your friends, seeing your family, etc. If work to you is unimportant, you need to change that. It’s absurd to think that the majority of my day I’m doing something that a) doesn’t benefit me b) that is unimportant to me and c) generally makes me angry or upset. Does work feel fulfilling to you? Are you doing something that you throughly enjoy? Do you wake up energized and excited for the work day? There’s no reason you shouldn’t in our short lives.

I repeat order to live a fulfilling life, to achieve the 5th stage of Maslow’s famous ‘Hierarchy of Needs’, to become a mfHero we need to know where our time goes and what to cut out!

Life is about writing a story that you’ll look back on one day and be happy with. The truth is, even though i’m young (25 years old) I don’t have as much time to make something of myself as I think and neither do you, SO START NOW!

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The problem with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat – Lily Tomlin

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Below are a few of the songs which i’ve been singing in the car to during the last week!

song/artist

1. Big in Japan / Martin Solveig *Ziggy Stardust Remix*

2. Stubborn Love / The Lumineers

3. I Wonder / Matt and Kim

4. AM/FM Sound / Matt and Kim

5. Amazing / Kanye West

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We’re whimps! At least I am and if you’re honest with yourself, you probably are too.

Yes, you might have stood up to the angry manager at a big box retail store recently, but in our general lives, most people whimp out.

Think about all the missed opportunities from just not approaching and talking to that person at the bar, taking a chance on something, asking the question on your mind, or stopping a random person and asking them on a date. Later we fill our heads with excuses as to why it was it a good idea we didn’t do whatever it was in order to make us feel better about whimping out!

Let’s take the example of approaching someone you find attractive.

Most guys will see a girl they think is pretty. Then they stare at her… This is already a bad and weird start. Then they slowly make their way towards her as though they’re a duck cautiously feeding on a piece of bread.

It’s just weird. People don’t like to be stared at, it creeps them out.

Eventually (and thankfully?) the girl leaves (or gets creeped out enough) and the guy will breath a sigh of relief that they didn’t actually have to go through with talking to her. (Note: This is 10 times creepier in a nightclub with techno music blasting and a strobe light flashing. Every flash of the strobe the girl literally just see you three feet closer and closer.) 

And girls! Well, just talk to guys in the first place, don’t always wait on them to come to you! 

Essentailly, we’re all just whimps! and this was just one example. 

However, we’re all in luck! There’s a new game out there dedicated to make us less, shameful.

The Rejection Therapy Game.

Getting told “no” can actually be quite liberating. It simply means you’ve asked for something, and got an answer. Meaning you can go on with your life and move on to the next thing. You’ll never have to worry about the answer you would have gotten if only you had the nerve to ask.

Rejection Therapy follows one simple rule. You must be rejected by another person, at least once, every single day.

If you weren’t rejected? You didn’t ask for enough. The game is designed to build confidence and overcome the fear of rejection.

There are five objectives to the game Rejection Therapy:

1. To be more aware of how irrational social fears control and restrict our lives
2. Smash the tyranny of fear and reap the treasures (treasures include wealth, relationships and self-confidence)
3. Learn from, and even enjoy rejection
4. To not be attached to outcomes, especially when it involves the free agency of other people
5. Permit yourself to fail

So what are you waiting for? Get started! Follow the link.

Rejection Therapy. The Game

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